Witnesses at Your Wedding – Who Can They Be?
One of the most common questions I get asked is: “Who can be our witnesses?”
In every wedding ceremony, you’ll need two witnesses. They’re there to watch you sign the legal paperwork and confirm that, yes, you really did say “I do.” But choosing them isn’t always straightforward, so let’s clear it up.
The Legal Bit
According to the Marriage Act 1961, your witnesses must:
Be at least 18 years old
Clearly understand that a marriage is taking place (and be able to understand English so they know what’s being said)
Be present for the whole ceremony
That’s it! There’s no rule about family, friends, or gender. Just two adults who can sign their names and confirm they saw you marry.
And here’s something reassuring: you don’t even need to know your witnesses personally. For couples eloping or keeping things very small, I can help arrange witnesses for you — so you don’t have to worry about a thing.
What if Our Witnesses
Don’t Speak English?
If the people you’d love to have as witnesses don’t speak or understand English, you can still include them, but you’ll also need a registered interpreter. The interpreter’s role is to ensure your witnesses fully understand what’s being said during the ceremony. It’s a simple extra step that keeps everything legal and still allows your chosen witnesses to share in this special moment.
Who Couples Usually Choose
Most couples choose people who are special to them, parents, siblings or best friends. Sometimes it’s the Best Man and Maid of Honour (if they’re over 18) or even grandparents. Others like to surprise their witnesses on the day, tapping someone close to them with a “will you be our witness?” right before the ceremony begins.
Can We Be Creative?
Absolutely! While the role is legal, it can also be meaningful. Maybe you’d like to honour a lifelong friend, or choose the people who introduced you. I’ve even had couples pick their children (if they’re old enough) or someone who’s supported them through their relationship. It’s a small but powerful way to include someone important in your story.
What Do Witnesses Actually Do?
Their main job is simple, they watch the ceremony, then sign the three marriage certificates alongside you. It’s quick, but for many, it feels like a huge honour to be asked. Some even frame a photo of that moment as a keepsake.
Final Tip
Don’t overthink it. Pick two people who mean something to you, who you trust to turn up on time and who you’ll be happy to share that little slice of wedding history with.
Ready to Choose Your Witnesses?
When we plan your ceremony, I’ll walk you through this and every other legal step, so nothing feels confusing or stressful. All you have to do is decide who you’d like beside you in that moment.
I’ll take care of the legal side while you focus on the fun stuff.