When I sit down with couples to talk through the “housekeeping” of their ceremony, phones always come up. It’s a big decision: do you want everyone to be fully present, in your moment or are you happy for them to be snapping photos along the way?

There’s no right or wrong answer, it’s about what feels right for you.

What Is an Unplugged Ceremony?

An unplugged ceremony is when you ask your guests to put away their phones, cameras and devices during the ceremony. This way, everyone is focused on what’s happening in front of them, not through a screen.

I usually describe it like this: imagine dear old Auntie Joan leaning right out into the aisle, videoing away… and in the process, blocking the view for your photographer who’s sitting quietly in the aisle, capturing every heartfelt moment. That’s exactly what an unplugged ceremony avoids.

Why couples love it:

Guests are present with you, not distracted
Your professional photos aren’t blocked by phones or tablets
The ceremony feels more intimate and connected

What About Phone-Friendly?

Some couples love the idea of their guests capturing photos and videos. A “phone-friendly” ceremony means guests are free to take snaps — either throughout or just at specific times.

Phone-friendly ceremonies are especially perfect for intimate weddings or elopements where a professional photographer may or may not be on hand. Couples often tell me how much they love seeing their celebration through their guests’ lens afterwards, the candid smiles, the tears, the little moments no one else noticed.

Why couples love it:

Extra candid memories from your guests’ perspective
Quick sharing on socials for family and friends who couldn’t attend
Creates a casual, relaxed vibe

A Middle Ground (My Favourite Approach)

It doesn’t have to be one or the other. Some couples choose a blend, unplugged for the important moments and then a chance for everyone to grab their phones when the timing is right.

Here’s an example of how I handle it: during the housekeeping at the start, I’ll tell your guests, “I’ll let you know when the key moments for photos are coming up.” Then, at the perfect moment, I’ll say, “Do you remember what I promised earlier? Well now’s the time! Get your phones out, because I’d like to welcome back the newlyweds!”

And just like that, you get a fun “second kiss” moment, phones out, guests cheering and no missed memories.

My Approach

Whatever you choose, I’ll support it and make sure your guests know exactly what’s expected. Whether it’s fully unplugged, phone-friendly, or somewhere in the middle, I’ll keep it relaxed, light and in line with the vibe you want for your day.

And no matter the choice, I always remind guests to put their phones on silent and yes, even vibration! so nothing distracts from your special moment.

Which One Suits You?

Unplugged or phone-friendly, your ceremony will be perfect because it reflects you. The important part is making a choice that feels comfortable and then letting me guide your guests, so it flows seamlessly on the day.

Let’s talk about the style that suits you best and I’ll make sure it all runs smoothly.

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